Mutual Masturbation
Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation describes two or more partners stimulating themselves while in the presence of each other or stimulating each other simultaneously. It can be an intimate, low-risk way to explore desires and learn what arouses a partner without penetrative sex.
Benefits
- Lower STI risk compared with penetrative sex when partners avoid fluid exchange and sharing unclean toys.
- Excellent communication exercise for discovering what techniques and pressures each person prefers.
- Can be erotic and intensely intimate, strengthening trust and sexual vocabulary between partners.
Safety & Etiquette
- Avoid sharing toys without a condom unless cleaned between uses.
- Discuss boundaries and comfort levels beforehand.
- Respect differences in pace, intensity and privacy needs.
Writing Tips
- Use mutual masturbation scenes to reveal character vulnerability and communication skills.
- Focus on shared eye contact, mirroring, or whispered instructions rather than explicit play-by-play.
Example
"They sat cross-legged on the carpet, hands moving with the easy familiarity of separate rhythms that somehow synced when their gazes met."
Why it works: Builds intimacy through parallel action and connection without relying on explicit description.